Sep 15 2018
It is hard to find a couple who has never had a single argument in their life. No couple could live together without a single argument no matter how big or small it is. We all have been in such situations, but what helps us to move forward is the love we share with our partner.
These fights actually are like a litmus test of the love that you share with your partner. There are some key factors if followed properly would help you to get out of these spiralling situations unharmed.
As we said arguments would happen in relationships, after all, you are two individuals who come from different family backgrounds and have their own opinions and perspectives. When you are in the initial stages of a relationship you tend to overlook the imperfections of your partner's character, but as days pass the fizz goes out of the relationship and you will start to find flaws in your partner. That is when the problems and arguments start.
Let the other person be heard. If you are arguing with your partner about something then let the other person also make his/her point. You would need a lot of patience to even accept the fact that the other person's point was correct. This would help you to keep the situation under control.
Never ever resort to name calling. Even if your arguments have lead to angry outbursts never ever resort to name callings and physical abuse. It is the worst thing that could happen in a relationship. Making sarcastic remarks on your partner's character to win an argument doesn't make you chivalrous. It would put your relationship in a spot beyond repair.
You need to prove your worth, while your partner is going through a rough patch in his or her life. If a couple could survive a situation which actually turns their lives upside down. Then that is a milestone in their relationship and love they share.
There could be moments where you will have to take care of your life and relationship singlehandedly without much support from your partner due to some unexpected illness or problems in the professional life. In such situations, you need to move forward with courage and provide ample support to your spouse. No more arguments in such situations as the other person will be in a very vulnerable position and such arguments could even destroy your relationship.
Don't hesitate to apologise to your partner when you realise that you were wrong and the other person was right in an argument. Don't let these arguments affect your life and equations. You should develop the maturity to take ownership for your mistakes and offer a genuine apology.
It is not wrong to take the time to cool off after an argument it won't be easy for anyone to simply forget the arguments. So it is ok to take time but that doesn't mean that you keep on emotionally hurting your partner for a long period of time.
It is easy to love each other during the honeymoon period of every relationship but how your love survives in the long run of life is that matters most. If your partner is going through the worst phase of his or her relationship and you still love them with the same passion that is where true love takes effect.