Apr 28 2018
Every person has a dark side in his/her life. One may have some personal matters which are not shared to anyone yet. There are so many such secrets that can ruin your relationship. Especially if you think that wedding night is the time to reveal all your undisclosed history, you are wrong. Among these, some of them can be shared when you realise that you have a great chemistry with your partner and your partner will not leave you after listening to them. But, when you step into the marriage, here are some things you should not be sharing , thinking that you are just being open with your spouse.
If you are a virgin and really proud of it and want your husband to know that, go ahead. But, if you have any sexual history which is not with your husband, it is time to keep your mouth zipped. You may think that he knows your past boyfriends and must be expecting this, still wedding night is not the right time. If you really trust your partner to take it sportingly, keep it aside for that drunk 'truth or dare' game.
You may dislike his mom to the core and hate his sister, but wait. They are his family. You should not talk bad about any of his family members. Even if he has some issues with his relatives, you need add fuel to it. You will realise with every passing year that you both have common hated relatives and family members. If you dislike a person whom your partner loves, you should not throw the spit. You can pull yourself from situations in which you have to take a particular side, at least in the initial years. First build a good rapport among the family members and take your time to judge them.
If you are not financially very restrained, you need to explain to your partner about your personal expenses. If you have bought a book or gifted a saree to your mom, you need not justify them, especially if you are earning yourself for the same. If it is a dining table or washing machine or any other common domestic expense, you can discuss it with your partner and take a decision acceptible for both.
Negatives of your partner
If you were not attracted to your partner initially or if you think your spouse is not successful, you need not tell him the same. Even if his or yours family members share any negative comments about your partner, you need not share them, unless necessary. You should be having the common sense to take decision on what to be told and what not to be told. Also, never compare your partner with your ex. If he has some negatives that your ex had which you wish to change, you can share the same without mentioning about the ex. You can try changing his/her negatives with time and love without hurting his/her feelings.