Feb 21 2018
Anger is assumed to be the language of love and concern in a relationship. But unfortunately, it is not. Anger is a negative emotion and anything negative cannot be proportional to love. Daily fights can be a routine for many married couples. It may start with a little extra salt in the breakfast to that phone charger which was misplaced. A wet cloth on the bed or an unclean kitchen can make your home a battlefield. But, these small fights can make your relationship a bitter one. Every couple should have a smile on their lips when they think about their relationship. Or else, you are with the wrong person or maybe you are just doing it wrong.
Relationships are based on trust and honesty. So, breaking up any of these can make your partner get heated up. But, if you follow some simple rules, your love life can be happier than ever.
Rule No:1 - Never sleep with a fight
However mad you are with each other, never go to bed angry. This will bring unnecessary gap in between and make things worse. Always sort out everything and never miss that goodnight kiss which makes every curve straight. If you sleep in anger, you may neither sleep nor forget the issue and wakes up with a disturbed mind. This can affect your next day and work life too, if unnoticed. You may need a lot of practice and patience to follow this rule. But, trust me, this can be the biggest quote for your happy married life.
Rule No:2- Apologise! Apologise! Apologise
Never mind who started the fight or who made it worse. You can always take initiative in saying Sorry. Ego can be the worst enemy, a relationship can have. So, never be too late to take your stand and apologize. Things can be wrong, situations can be bad. But, you both love each other and that is what matters. Never use abusive language or harsh words on your partner. Spoken words cannot be taken back. Even if you didn't mean it or if it was unintentional, the pain it causes can last forever.
Rule No:3- Never raise your voice
You may be really angry at what she just said. But, raising your voice is never going to do anything well. Your higher tone or pitch is not going to make your arguments sound right. Instead, even if you are saying the right thing, you may be misunderstood. So, always maintain a calm conversation about your love life. Never say or do anything in anger. Fury is the worst time to take decisions of life. You can leave it for them and talk about it later when you have a control over your actions. This will reduce harming each other's emotions.
Rule No:4- Never involve a third person
You should never involve a third person to solve your personal issues unless it is necessary. Whether it is your parents, friends or experts, they cannot solve it as you could. It is your partner's and your problem. The more people you involve, the more big the issue will become. Try not to make small things bigger. A third person may try to understand the situation from their own experiences and perceptions, which may be completely wrong in your case. Instead of seeking advice from others, try and sort it out with your own knowledge about each other.
Rule No:5- Hug it out/Kiss it up
When your partner is fuming in anger, hug him/her tightly. Hold both your hands together and stay quiet for a few minutes. You can see the magic of love. This miracle rule will make you believe in the power of touch. This can be the best solution for all your worries. You can make it a part of your daily life, even if you both are in a good mood. Hugging and kissing can nurture your relationship and rekindle the love.