May 6 2020
Proximity is considered as a key factor for any successful marriage. But it can't be the same every time. What if you and your spouse are on two different continents after the wedding?
For some people, a long distance relationship will be a big no as according to them, it will not work out at all and you will end up heartbroken. We do admit that it is not going to be easy. You will need to put some extra efforts to keep it on the track. Let's discuss the points you need to remember if you are planning to keep a long distance relationship alive.
Communication is the key factor. When we say communication we didn't mean that you should be in contact with your partner every hour of the day. There should be a breathing space in every relationship. If you call or text your spouse throughout the day it will make them feel like you are trying to keep a tab on them other than being missed.
There are no rules like you need to be in each other's company 24/7 to keep the sparks alive in the relationship, so you needn’t call your spouse every minute to keep the spark in the long distance relationship. Calling every hour will also put you in a situation where you have no topic left to discuss and calling someone every time just to say that you miss him/her immensely will only spoil the relationship.
An element which also needs a lot of attention in a long distance relationship is trust. Don't let the distance to open the doors for negative feelings such as doubt, distrust and cheating mentality to sweep into the relationship.
Another great way is to send a long mail once in a while telling them about how you feel. Be honest in your communication. Never exaggerate incidents or things since the person is not physically present here to experience it.
Don't make these calls and emails a medium for complaining. But that doesn't mean that you should hide your real feelings from your partner as we mentioned earlier honesty is a major part of every successful long distance relationship.
Another thing to remember is that there is no place for jealousy in any relationship. This feeling could one day destroy your relationship. If you are having such a feeling it is better to control it and deal with it before it starts to affect your relationship.
It is also great to surprise your partner with a gift once in a while. Send something she or he would love to own (we don't say expensive). Another great gift you could give your partner is to love and take care of his/her family as your own and help your partner connect with the family back home.
In case you start to feel like the long distance relationship is adding a lot of pressure on you and it is causing a lot of stress on your equations with your partner then don't waste time and with your partner's consent consult a counsellor.
Always remember that you and your partner may be in two different places but never let yourself feel lonely in a relationship.