Apr 24 2018
Those butterflies in your tummy must be saying that you are going to have the best days in your life. Now, you don't need to wait for your parents to sleep to make out. You can roam around the whole house in your lingerie. You can eat whatever you want and merry whenever you want to. This looks like a dream come true. But, reality check! You may be learning a lot of things which you never expected in life, when you move in. You should remember that all your hidden habits and quirks have to be understood by your partner.
Sharing your expenses
You have to be very clear from the beginning about your financial planning. There should be no arguments on this ground. You can decide well in hand that who will pay what and what is your contributions to the housing loan or house rent. If one of you are not earning, still you should share the financial liabilities and debts you have. If you are not yet married and still confused about your relationship status, keep the bills. You can be transparent and open about the divisions.
You may be snoring throughout the night which can make his sleepy nights, a nightmare. He may leave the wet towels on the bed or wear the same footwear to washroom and kitchen. He may leave the bathroom open or you may drop the laundry on the sofa. Those habits should be understood and efforts to change can occur in a slow pace. But, be patient. You both will have enough things to blame each other in every passing day. Take this exploring stage in a positive way and be excited to know your partner more.
Give and Take Policy
You both may have different tastes and different beliefs. There is a lot to be adjusted, when you stay together. You may have to miss your favourite serial for his football match. But, believe me, you are going to enjoy those popcorn time and cheer for your partner's favourite team soon. You can cook meals in turn or together , as you wish. But, always divide your work so that you both wll never have to fight over it.
Draw your boundaries
Whether you are married or not, you have to learn to create and obey the boundaries. You should not enter each other's personal space physically or emotionally and sexually. If she/he is not yet ready to sleep together, let them take their own time. Staying together should make you feel comfortable, not panic. She may love to read a book before bed and you may love to listen to your favourite music at bedtime. Give each other their space and respect. You may not clean his cupboard without asking or he may not move the folders on your desktop to drives. The intention may be good. But, every individual needs their space and moving together will reduce the chances of having it, to minimum.