Mar 12 2018
Congratulations! Your longtime boyfriend has finally asked for your hand. And you think that you need not wait for a second to scream YES! But, relax! There are a million things you both must have shared except the most relevant ones. So, let's make this complicated task, a bit easier for you.
Here is a list of things you need to ask your boyfriend before getting married. This will help you in not regretting afterward.
What about Pappa Mummy?
You have to discuss beforehand that whether you will have to stay with his parents or you both will move in together. You can also confirm, whether his parents will accompany him if he moves in with you. This talk can reduce a lot of fight in future. If you have dependent parents, you can inform him that too. If you have a single parent and you want him to shift with you, that also should be pre-planned.
When do you want to clean the poop?
Child plans should be well discussed before the marriage. If you have career plans that do not allow a quick maternity leave, you can confide. If his work demands extra time for a couple of years and he wants to spend time with his kid, you can push the plans ahead. Also, if anyone of you prefers adoption and does not believe in making own babies, that also should come in your conversation. There will be differences in decision making. But, make a proper one before putting yourself through the wedding.
How many installments do you have?
You may have taken a home loan for your family and wants to continue paying the installment even after marriage. There may be education loans or personal loans that you have to pay every month. Be transparent about your financial status and never fake luxury. If anyone of you needs financial assistance after marriage, that also can be made clear. This will help you fix an economic budget plan in future.
Will you still be a believer?
The biggest question that arises in love marriage in India is related to religion. If it is an inter-caste relationship, which is the common religion in the family? Will you or your partner change the religion after marriage? If not, what will be your take on your kid's religious status? Will parents be okay with your decision of changing religion? All these questions should have answers before you both tie the knot.
What do you do when you have nothing to do?
Your hobbies and interests can be talked over a coffee which can help you get an idea about your future weekends and vacations. It does not mean that you both need to have same choices. She may be a beach person and you a mountain addict. But, you can choose your holiday destinations wisely. If this year you chose the Maldives, Himalayas can be your next one. After all, there are years to live together!