Apr 17 2018
The twenties is when you have maximum energy and capacity to live and love. Here is when you have enough time to trial and error. By now, you will be an expert in finding the wrong man and cribbing over life every other day. You will promise yourself not to repeat your mistakes but you will always find yourself doing the same, every other day.
I wish I had an opportunity like this to know things before I wasted my time and energy in wrong directions. But here is a guide that can help you in your twenties to understand love, better.
You should never say that he was not like this before, after committing to him. He must have shown his nature somewhere or the other to which you paid no attention in the beginning. I will not blame you for this because loves makes you blind, but remember not to be dumb. Listen to the non-verbal ques and instincts more than the cheesy promises. When he says 'I love you' looking into your eyes and scrolling down the phone is not same. Right? Try to be more alert to what your partner's body language says.
Sex is not everything, but something
If you and your partner does not share a good chemistry in the bed, it is good to say goodbye. If it is bad in the beginning, do not expect to be better in prospect and later complain. Sex does not define your relationship but is definitely an expression of your love. You both must have that passion ignited all through the life to stay happy. This does not mean that you have to be the sex expert in bed. But, make sure you both are happy and content after being intimate.
Commitment is a big deal
You should understand that there are people who can never be loyal. Do not expect people who have already been disloyal to you, to change in the future. Giving second chance is putting yourself into the same fire which once burnt you, knowing that it will burn you again. If your partner is scared of commitment, leave the relationship as early as possible. This will ensure that you do not cry about your bad decisions.
Not all are bad
If you have been into multiple wrong relationships, it is high time that you introspect and find where things are going wrong. Do not leave things to destiny. Take charge of your life and take responsibility for your actions. You should not put yourself again and again through mental traumas that one day you will lose it all. If it is you who is nagging and creating troubles, understand and change. Never run to find the perfect man/ woman and treat your partner as a mere option. Do not feel hesitant to analyze yourself or take expert professional advice.